We’ve all been there. Scrolling through social media, watching another agent hit their biggest sales month yet. Hearing about a competitor who just landed a million-dollar listing. Seeing a colleague build a coaching business that seems to be thriving while you’re still figuring out your next move.

Comparison creeps in. It whispers, Why am I not there yet? What am I doing wrong?

And just like that, we’re pulled below the line—trapped in self-doubt, judgment, and scarcity.

But what if I told you that comparison isn’t the problem? It’s what you do with it that matters.

The Role of Comparison in Conscious Leadership

Comparison is a natural human instinct. It’s how we make sense of the world, assess where we stand, and identify what’s possible. But when left unchecked, it leads to suffering—self-judgment, resentment, and feelings of inadequacy.

Conscious leadership offers a different path. Instead of falling into the drama triangle—where we either play the Victim (I’ll never be as good as them), the Villain (They must be cutting corners), or the Hero (I just need to work harder to prove myself)—we shift into awareness and choice.

Step 1: Locate Yourself

Are you comparing from a place of curiosity or judgment?

• Above the line: Wow, she’s really growing her business. What can I learn from her approach?
• Below the line: She’s more successful than me. I must not be good enough.

If you’re feeling resentment, jealousy, or discouragement, you’ve likely slipped below the line. No shame—just notice it.

Step 2: Own Your Part

Comparison often triggers our deepest insecurities—areas where we feel we’re not enough. The conscious leader asks, What is this revealing about me?

• Am I outsourcing my confidence to external validation?
• Am I focusing on what’s outside of my control instead of taking responsibility for my own growth?
• Am I resisting my own path because I think it should look like someone else’s?

Step 3: Shift from Scarcity to Sufficiency

Comparison thrives in a scarcity mindset. It tells us success is a zero-sum game. But conscious leaders choose an abundance mindset:

• Scarcity says: If they’re winning, I’m losing.
• Abundance says: Their success expands what’s possible for all of us.

Instead of seeing others as competition, we can choose to see them as evidence of possibility. Someone else’s success means it can be done—which means it’s possible for you, too.

Step 4: Channel It into Creation

Comparison becomes toxic when it leads to inaction. Conscious leaders use it as fuel for growth. Instead of getting stuck in “Why them?” ask:

• What’s inspiring about what they’re doing?
• What action can I take today to move toward my own vision?
• Where do I already have a Whole Body Yes in my business—and how can I lean into that?

The Only Person to Compare Yourself To

At the end of the day, the only person worth comparing yourself to is who you were yesterday. Are you learning? Growing? Moving toward the business and life you truly want?

That’s what conscious leadership is about. Choosing presence over comparison. Ownership over envy. Possibility over scarcity.

Because when you do that, you stop measuring yourself against someone else’s highlight reel—and start leading from a place of true power.