There’s a moment—usually subtle—when you say “yes,” but you don’t really mean it.

Maybe it’s agreeing to list a home for less than you advised.
Or staying late to help a client who’s never once said thank you.
Or continuing to mentor that agent who cancels on you last minute… again.

You nod. You smile. You carry on.

But underneath?

A slow burn begins.

We don’t always recognize it as resentment at first. It often hides behind busyness, fatigue, or a vague sense of “Why does this feel off?”

And yet.

Resentment isn’t a sign you’re selfish. It’s not proof that you can’t handle stress.
It’s a signal.
A flare shot from your unconscious, asking: “Where have I said yes when I meant no?”

The Conscious Leadership Reframe

In Conscious Leadership, resentment is treated not as something to fix or suppress—but as a breadcrumb.
A clue that you may be out of integrity.

And by integrity, we don’t mean moral purity. We mean wholeness.
Alignment between what you feel, what you say, and what you do.

It’s what we call a Whole Body Yes—when your head, heart, and gut all say, “I’m in.”

Most of us aren’t taught to make decisions that way.
Especially not in real estate, where the default mode is:

• Be available.
• Be agreeable.
• Be the one who makes things happen.

So we override ourselves.
Say yes to avoid conflict, maintain reputation, or simply because “that’s just what top producers do.”

But over time, those false yeses build up—into fatigue, frustration, and eventually… resentment.

What To Do When It Shows Up

Next time you notice that tightening in your chest, that eye roll you try to hide, that urge to vent about “how ridiculous this is”—pause.

Try this:

1. Name It:
   Ask yourself: What am I feeling resentful about right now? Be honest. Be petty if you need to. Write it down.
2. Trace It Back:
   When did I say yes to something I didn’t have a Whole Body Yes for?
3. Own Your Part:
   Did I agree out of obligation? Fear? Approval-seeking? People-pleasing?
4. Renegotiate or Release:
   Where possible, go back and make a clean agreement—or decide what boundary you’ll hold moving forward.

A Final Word

Resentment isn’t the enemy.
It’s the teacher that shows up when we haven’t been listening to ourselves.

For women in real estate—where so much of the job is about holding space for others—it’s vital that we don’t abandon our own boundaries in the process.

So when resentment arrives?
Don’t shame it.
Thank it.
Then use it to come back into alignment—with your values, your truth, and your power.